tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4430506625470707567.post8806551040317587893..comments2023-06-29T07:09:35.994-07:00Comments on One Delicious Delivery (And I'm Not Talking Pizza...): Self-doubthebamme ~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08708270634154916532noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4430506625470707567.post-89798724558799329872011-02-20T16:27:50.189-08:002011-02-20T16:27:50.189-08:00Glad you're back! I check everyday for a new ...Glad you're back! I check everyday for a new post. I wont give you along detailed comment like everyone else, just the two things that stuck out to me because I've had this discussion with my preceptor recently...<br /><br />It's ok to not know! You're learning, and it takes maturity to say you don't know. Guessing or "faking it" (and not talking confidence here, but knowledge) wont help in this situation, you're there to learn and will make mistakes. Take them in stride and try to do better next time!<br /><br />And, listen to your hands when you're palpating. Crazy, but they know what is there. Just listen to them :)Randeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14976295372305713669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4430506625470707567.post-80307257343090523452011-02-19T10:03:17.648-08:002011-02-19T10:03:17.648-08:00OK, my response might be longish...
I have 2 prece...OK, my response might be longish...<br />I have 2 preceptors. They are both great, but are very different personalities.<br />The one, "B" admits that she has a hard time "giving up control" and keeping quiet to allow her student to do things. The other, "A", is laid back and allows me to run things, while keeping a low profile, other than for some assistance when needed. She will give me tips or feedback after the visit, birth, whatever, IN PRIVATE. "B" has said a few things in front of patients about me not knowing this or that because I'm just a student. That is inappropriate, I think, but happens. I know it definitely made me feel about an inch tall and cut my confidence level about 90%. After an incident like that, it can be very difficult to function well with that preceptor in attendance. You're so nervous, that you can do nothing right! <br />If I only had "B" as a preceptor, and never "A", I don't know if I could've made it through! There were plenty of difficult days, where I would do a few visits (well, I thought) independently with "A", then go in to do a visit with "B" and she would not introduce me at all, not let me get a word in edgewise, and I was pretty much wall paper. Very frustrating! <br />But, I kept telling myself that it is just their different personalities and I could get through it. Eventually, "B" did give me a little more independence and actually praised me at times. She always tended to have more "critiques" for me than the other preceptor, though. She tended to prefer things to be done the way SHE did them, whereas "A" was open to the fact that there are many ways to skin a cat. (Not that I would ever skin a cat. I like cats.)<br /><br /><br />As for the whole anterior shoulder thing, I have also had some trouble figuring that out! I think it's something that will come for us in time. We are STUDENT midwives! Basically, I think that when you feel some "give" with that anterior shoulder, you can start working on the posterior, but it's different each time. <br /><br />And I, too, especially having finished my clinical hours, have a truck load of self doubt and apprehension!! My thoughts go something like, "I can not do this by MYSELF! What if I can't figure out how to sew up a lac? What if she starts to bleed PP and it won't stop??? What if there is a shoulder dystocia that I can't relieve??! What if the FHT drops to nothing and she won't push?????!!! What if I see a wierd looking thing on a cervix in the office? How will I know what it is? What to do with it? What if, what if, what if, what if???????!!!!"<br /><br />I try to turn this off by reminding myself that I had many of these same worries as I was graduating nursing school and the responsibilies I would have as a RN terrified me. Eventually I got more confident in that role and I will get there this time, too!<br />In the mean time, maybe it wouldn't hurt to do a little time with another preceptor... One a little more like my "A"!mommy2boysazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01469047347153465390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4430506625470707567.post-20671934657868056382011-02-18T21:15:08.339-08:002011-02-18T21:15:08.339-08:00I was feeling so indecisive and having NO CONFIDEN...I was feeling so indecisive and having NO CONFIDENCE with one of my preceptors. I found that once I forced confidence, took a little initiative, faked sounding confident...she seemed more confident in me. I have a lot to learn, we are just starting this amazing journey, but remember...you have been a midwife in everything but the actual degree or letters after your name for some time. Perhaps her personal approach is not what will be comfortable for you with your clients.<br /><br />It has to be different learning her personality at the same time learning all of this stuff. I am lucky to not have to "learn their personalities." <br /><br />Does she allow you or are you at the bedside during their labors. I feel like once I am at their bedside bonding with them and supporting them while they are in active labor, then the patients become confident in me which carries over to how I feel and then to the midwife.<br /><br />I want to say take the step to "control" the situation/room/plan of care...but does she allow you to do that?<br /><br />When did A visit? How did that go? Do you have to get another site or what's up with that?<br /><br />You can send me an email if you don't want to say it all here, but I believe in you. I love that you are quietly confident. I love that you take the time to listen to the whole story and appear to totally be listening to me and then respond. I think you have so much to offer to women and if you aren't able to exude all of that in the clinical setting yet-you will.Asyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02464156628126879148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4430506625470707567.post-2599768295944102012011-02-18T20:00:34.908-08:002011-02-18T20:00:34.908-08:00Aw, Mandi. Honestly, that comment would have been ...Aw, Mandi. Honestly, that comment would have been in my brain way too much as well. I would have thought it to death. This midwife has YEARS of training though. I'm sure she started off just as everyone else does. Take charge in the rooms. Prove her wrong. Show that you are more than capable of doing things.. maybe you just need a pep talk once in a while. Everyone does. It's how we get by in life with all of the stress. <3 you and hope for the best. Remember - CONFIDENCE! Walk into that place like you own it. Compliment yourself as well. Don't focus on the negatives, but focus on the positives. <3 you!Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07729226632603139398noreply@blogger.com